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Thank you for this thoughtful question. Too often I neglect myself in order to meet the demands of capitalist expectations in work/life/body/etc.

What makes me feel alive is surfing with friends, cooking with my partner, sharing food with family, taking deep breaths, cancelling all my plans to just BE without screens or to-do lists.

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Thank you for this thread! I love how people are sharing not just what but why and sometimes how.

For me, yoga practices (particularly asana and pranayama), herbal teas (fresh from my garden when possible), and journaling help remind me to be present and compassionate with WHATEVER is going on beneath the surface of my default public persona.

Writing and playing music is my no. 1 for feeling ALIVE, followed closely by laughter (with friends is even better), dancing in a big group of people, and enjoying (preferably sharing) a warm, home cooked meal with fresh ingredients (from local farmers when I can afford it).

I also work with plant medicines (some noticeably psychoactive and some not) to help move big emotions, past traumas, and as a reminder that our connection to all living things comes with both benefits and responsibilities.

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Thank you, these things made me smile :)

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Sharing a list of some additional responses I received to this question on IG :

• Swimming naked in natural water bodies 🌊

• Gardening, taking care of house plants, joining the community garden and cooking food (some folks emphasized on cooking with herbs, fruits & veggies cultivated in their garden or cooking with any food that is grown/ foraged) 🌿

• Get off social media, connecting with community in person & spending time in the wilderness with loved ones 👩🏾‍🤝‍👩🏽

• Radical reading 📚

• Reading and learning about the universe/ astrophysics 🌌 (also a personal fave of mine!)

• Participating in mutual aid efforts with others and building solidarity ✊🏽

• Sex, cuddles & affection from loved ones + pets ❤️‍🔥

• Storytelling in community with honesty, sharing meals & heartache with people 🍜

• Hiking in the forest, observing wild animals in the wilderness, long walks in parks, exercising in any form (dancing or body movement) 🏋🏾‍♀️

• Watching sci-fi & fantasy shows (I LOVE reading these genres specifically because they enable an imaginative escape!) 🧬

• Lean in & listen to whispers/ voices as spirits to understand them & be in connection with them ✨

• Crochet, Knit & making art with your hands/ body in a way that requires you to engage actively with the present 🎨

• Drugs and art on drugs! 🍄

• Try to laugh & cry through art, watching something, a friendship to wake up and feel again 🥹

• Sitting in the sun, Looking at sunlight shining thru the leaves of a big ol’ tree, listening to birds or crickets (admiring nature!) 🌳

• Community gatherings, free art spaces, events, festivals & community organizing collectives ✊🏽

• Using the plant ID app while on a walk to learn about the plants in your local ecosystem 🍀

• Make art, CRY, DAYDREAM 💖

• Playing with surroundings like we did when we were children & exploring 👧🏽

• Being an absolute dork & clown with loved ones to bring about as much joy as possible 🤭

• Playing a musical instrument, singing & listening to ethnic/ cultural music to connect with ancestors 🥁

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Engaging at my own pace with various handicrafts; sewing, embroidery, and others to make gifts, costumes, or simply give myself clothing I want that fits and lasts well. Using older food preservation techniques to prolong seasonal tastes and share with friends near and far. Rediscovering herbal practices my great grandmother used. Teaching outside an academic context. And like many in this thread, taking care of adopted animals.

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Teaching outside the academic context has been a lifesaver. And also slowly getting back into handicrafts and art as a regular practice beyond producing for consumption has been rewarding. Ups and downs but getting there haha

Thank you for sharing🌿

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spending time with friends doing activities that are cheap/ cost very little money. buying board games at thrift stores for game nights, mini inflatable pool or drawing with chalk together. also planting and growing our own foods is a great way to connect with nature and each other while also reaffirming our autonomy and independence from capitalistic systems.

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Yesss to spending time with friends doing just about anything- I can sit on a couch and drink tea with friends chatting for hours or go axe throwing and try something affordable/ novel together, either way it’s a blessing. I think that’s also how I’ve realized I have more deep, meaningful, authentic friendships- when I don’t need an elaborate external activity but just their company in itself is healing & regenerative. Thank you for sharing!

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Before I find the space to articulate my reflections fully I just wanted to share my gratitude for this thread - it’s been a beautiful and needed prompt to reflect deeply and affirming to see patterns in how we each approach finding ways to reconnect with ourselves, one another and the beautiful, complex world we belong to in order to restore ourselves. Thankyou 🙏🏼

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Thank you Nia🌹

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Resting at work and living like I'm on vacation all the rest of time, music and singing, talking to children (I work with children), talking to strangers, going outside even if it's just sitting on the stoop, making pleasure a priority, eating whatever I'm craving and disregarding diet culture, stimming.

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Yessss to talking to children! I love having insightful life convos with my little cousin who’s 8, honestly refreshing that I can effectively communicate any political concept in a discussion with her because she’s able to still stay open minded & embrace new ideas without clinging to existing systems as much. It’s heartbreaking to know that she might be more heavily socialized as she goes deeper into her education but still I think it gives me hope that these things we’re fighting for are reasonable & simple goals that children easily see hope in.

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I feel free when I dance. I try to make sure I schedule a dance class for myself at least once or twice a week. Specifically, I love Zumba and Soca! My mind drifts away and my body feels so joyful moving that I could cry.

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Yessss 💃🏽💃🏽

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i enjoy my garden, or taking a walk outside with my dog. sometimes i need my community, i need people and connection. i needed it after the news yesterday, and i saw a pop-up community event happen in a local park as a response, so i attended it. i love local events, seeing local food and goods, all coming together to serve each other. observing our diverse community flowing together before my eyes is a healing sight to me. to feel that connection, i do have to look or seek it out but it can always be found.

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Local community gatherings and events are my favorite refuge. And it can be a bit arduous to seek out spaces but Oh so rewarding. Thank you for sharing🌿

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I have really enjoyed reading everyone's comments so far! <3 My two adopted cats are majorly grounding for me - watching them play and occasionally annoy one another lol really stimulates a childlike joy within me, and how peaceful and safe they seem to feel when they sleep in our home sometimes brings tears to my eyes, honestly, like knowing that my partner and I have been able to create a loving environment for them where they feel safe to be vulnerable (literally in ways that would make them prone to nature if they were outside) reminds me that I am safe, too.

I also live in a big city with a big "park" that is anything but natural, BUT being able to walk a few blocks there and be immersed in the sights and smells of nature does wonders for me. The ocean is my major happy place (Pisces over here) and I find a lot of connection to the world just by sitting near it and breathing in the salt air. I do a lot of trash sweeps in my neighborhood, too - an easy way to glean a bit of control in our chaotic world. Even getting a "hey, thanks for doing that!" from a neighbor makes me feel great, and is a half-hour of my time that I'm not doom-scrolling.

AND being ~brave~ and saying good morning to my neighbors, even if they don't say good morning back (often!). Asking people who I see regularly what their names are, etc. Having those moments of connecting with others, however shallow, reminds me that I'm not alone, and has been a really great practice for me as someone who has struggled a lot with finding connection. Even if the "good morning" or whatever isn't reciprocated, I feel proud of myself for doing something that not a lot of other people do and for trying to connect in a world that loves to drive us apart.

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I’m trying to adopt 2 cats sometime soon too! I had 2 cats growing up that were like my siblings and until now I never could afford to have pets but still settling into Nashville (just moved) and waiting till I’m more comfortable in my home. But I’m looking forward to being able to care for 2 meows lol. And I try to make even brief moments of connection with strangers as authentic as possible - I’ve realized as long as it not forcing anything, I’m trying to show up with all of me instead of parts of me & im not trying to fit into any respectability politics or anything, I can still have a meaningful exchange. The one thing I avoid now is doing the “how are you” “good, how are you?” exchange unless I actually have time to sit down with folks or be able to hear a response and reciprocate insightfully haha

Thanks for sharing ♥️

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I feel alive to the wonders and beauty of this chaotic world most when I am with my cat. She purrs, sleeps on my lap and I am like what did I do to deserve so much love from her. I feel so stressed around my family but that's where she lives too and I tell myself as long as I have her love, ots going to be fine. Other than that, I love walking aimlessly, it makes me feel so grounded but the places in India where I've lived do not have much trees and parks, it's all shops and apartments. I plan to start growing some plants in my garden (inspired by Jess), I think I'd really connect to the greens. Also several times a day, I space out looking at the the sky and clouds outside my window. The dorm I used to live in until last month had no windows, no wonder it drove me batshit crazy. The monsoon has arrived here and my nervous system is being soothed by rain, petrichor and thunders.

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My safe calm place I go to in my head is sitting on the porch of my dads childhood home in the village of Bengre in south India, in the middle of the monsoon season when I hear/ see/ smell & feel the rain fall on my feet as I’m drinking chai & also hear the thunder in the distance-- it’s always the place I go to to remember what safety or home can potentially feel like even if I’m far away from it now.

Thank you for sharing 🌹

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I really resonate with this, as a fellow cat carer! Also, I once sublet a room in NYC that had no windows - I am certain that the "room" used to be a walk-in closet - and it obliterated my mental health. I wonder why!

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I garden. Connecting & grounding in the earth. Planting something edible that bypasses the system. Reminding myself I'm nature. Witnessing the regenerative processes of the garden ecosystem. Being.

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Yes! Connecting with plants is recently my favorite exchange with my ecosystem that immediately feels grounding and gives my life some sense of meaning. Even if it’s just taking care of my lil house plants and see them respond to me being intentional and careful about their care- though I would love to garden one day when I can have access to some yard space. Realizing that’s sort of my glass ceiling of “comfort” I’d like to save for- just some land I can cultivate consciously with the native species in mind & build relationships with. Thank you for sharing 🌹🌿

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Walk with my dog, especially in the early morning or evening. Strike up a conversation with a stranger - even if it’s a bit shallow, I can still feel care and connection. Cook without a plan, exploring ingredients from nature, and eat something nourishing. Spend time with art to peek into how another human sees, feels, perceives their world. Write letters to friends I can’t see in the flesh. Close my eyes and face the sun if I can find it.

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I’d like to adopt some rescue cats soon if I can - caring for animals is an incredibly meaningful exchange with your ecosystem for sure! Also I love talking to strangers because it’s become less and less expected but also I skip the bs and am way more comfortable with being authentic now and sharing something deeply vulnerable about myself in a totally unfiltered way that involves me gashing some wounds open if I have to just because I’m so so so tired of the rehearsed scripts, superficial convos and pretending we all have to do in the matrix. And I’ve realized if I’m willing to make that move to connect with folks, most people reciprocate in beautiful ways and a random convo becomes the most authentic exchange I might have had all week. I guess we can always give each other permission to be as real as we can be.

I love love love cooking- but so much so that when it becomes highly regimented like meal prep I begin to hate it because it is forced, timed and very robotic. So I love to cook when I have unrestricted unstructured time to connect with my cultural roots and just creatively explore flavor too!

I’ve also realized more as I write and create that it’s not enough for me to share my work with the world if I’m not simultaneously being challenged, unlearning, learning new things & being inspired by the offerings of other folks so I constantly find myself searching for the beautifully raw ways folks create art, write, & share their human experiences that also skip the bs and just hit issues directly. Writing while learning and exploring has become a love language where I can share things with y’all while also giving myself the grace to continue learning. Thank you for sharing ♥️♥️

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Meal prep is so capitalist ugh!!

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I am going through a lot at the moment and appreciate all the people who mentioned the somatic nervous system and dorsal vagal nerve: I am working on this to increase my resilience and tap into my stuck emotions. Thanks all.

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Yup- I’ve recently realized how a lot of somatic work has been sort of sterilized and reduced to scientific jargon but really is rooted in black and brown cultural and spiritual ways of handling distress that extended beyond “objectivity” into the realms of the unknown and embraced complexity. So recently I’ve been trying to decolonize all my somatic practices & any somatic work I do with folks by incorporating the cultural, sociopolitical context of letting ourselves feel and express the spectrum of emotions thru cultural resilience as well beyond just thinking of it as a precise science which nothing is but is often reduced to.

To that end though- movement is always a way to release any stuck emotions for me but also I use an adapted version of the feelings wheel (can google it and see some iterations) to identify the granularity of my emotions because often I don’t even know WHAT I’m feeling haha. Sometimes can’t even discriminate between angry or sad… or just know I’m feeling too much & all at once but not exactly able to easily pinpoint the source or trigger so picking a node or single feeling to unpack one at a time makes it less overwhelming. And also always knowing that I am one teeny tiny human who doesn’t have the capacity to comprehend the complexities of the universe and can find ways to release intense emotions even if I don’t intellectually understand them - humbling myself helps reduce the shame of not figuring out all my somatics haha

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Weed keeps me grounded and lets me feel how stressed my body is, which can be hard to do when I'm numb. It also forces me into a state of relaxation. Singing helps a lot! Writing without judging myself, just letting the words flow without filter helps. Yoga is weekly form of maintenance for me. I'm getting to a point where running is more restorative then stressful, but I'm not quite there yet! Ranting to my friends also helps.

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200000% also helped me taper myself off of the cocktail of psych meds I was put on unnecessarily, limit myself from really toxic pain medications to manage my chronic pain, etc. I’ve recently gone back to listening to and singing classical Indian music which I realized I had distanced myself from even though it was my first love because of the attachment it had to my family & all the trauma associated with that. But recently I’ve tried to intentionally recreate my relationship with my cultural music in a way that aligns with my political work and it has helped me realize how music & cultural expression like dance has always been a tool of us to handle our mental distress as a collective without reducing our pain to broken brains.

I’ve had a dangerous relationship with over working out in terms of power lifting etc & as a past student athlete so I’m going to have to rebuild that relationship too outside the context of capitalism & how it gaslights us to thinking we need to eternally self optimize or be filled with shame for not keeping up with the ever perfectionist standards of a successful, fit individual in the system.

My fave release is always being in community where I can share & receive & hold space while being held. Community saves lives 🌿 thank you for sharing ♥️

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